Just Say Something
Posted on Monday, April 30, 2012
There are plenty of reasons things may seem really good at first but then suddenly fizzle out. We like to think the day we meet someone they just fell out of the sky right into our pathway and this is their first encounter with people ever. But in reality it’s very likely they knew people of the opposite sex before they ever met you. And it’s likely that just like you, they date too. So maybe things were really good with you two on the first few dates but they were really freaking awesome with someone else on their first few dates. So now she’s feeling the freaking awesome guy a little more than she is feeling you and she just doesn’t have the heart –or guts –to tell you that. So, she does like most people, men and women alike, and disappears in the hopes that you’ll get the picture and disappear too. It’s not right but hey, its life.
But how great would it be if we were all courageous and just said something. Think of it like being fired from a job; at least when they let you go they give you a reason. Maybe it was poor performance or maybe you were late to work too many times. Even if you don’t necessarily agree with the reason, at least you know why you were let go. And it could be something you can work on improving for the next job. Wouldn’t it be great if a guy could tell the girl “you were moving a little too fast for me and I just prefer a slower pace.” And she makes a mental note to “slow your role girl” and thanks him for the feedback. Or the woman could tell the guy “your overwhelming adoration for all things Rock’Em Sock’Em kind of turned me off.” And the guy makes a mental note to “hold back on the Rock’Em Sock’Em love until at least the 6th date” and thanks the girl for her honesty.
I’m not saying you should set out to be brutally honest just for the hell of it. And it doesn’t have to be as serious and dramatic as an episode of Days of Our Lives. But the simple courtesy of honesty and tact can go a long way in earning you some respect. Maybe you don’t want to close that door for good. But when you’re honest and upfront that person respects you much more. So if in the future you get the itch to talk to them again, they may be more willing to scratch that itch for you!
The next time you get that urge to drop off the face of the earth, just think about how you’d feel if the shoe were on the other foot. You don’t have to give a long explanation, preach a sermon or recite your dissertation on relationships. But just say something! It will be much appreciated, trust me. After all, I am the expert!
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